How much money should your parents give you at university?

There’s a good chance you’re going to need some help from the Bank of Mum and Dad at university, but how much will you need? Here’s what they’re expected to contribute.

Since the current Maintenance Loan is often nowhere near enough to cover living costs in the UK, the government expects parents to pick up the shortfall. Basically, the more they earn, the more they’re expected to contribute.

Depending on where you live at uni and how much your parents earn, they could be expected to contribute over £5,000 a year. According to our 2018 survey, the average student receives £138.50 a month from parents.

Read on to find out exactly how much your parents should be contributing and how you can go about asking them for it…

Should your parents give you money at university?

The current student finance system uses your parents’ income to determine how much money you get to live off while you’re studying – this means it’s means-tested.

Whether this is fair or not is debatable. For starters, the system fails to take into account that some parents will also be supporting other children at university which will strain their income.

Some parents will also have different attitudes to this than others. Some might think that because you’re 18 (and they’re technically no longer legally responsible for you), that it’s up to you to fund yourself, while others might be more than willing to dish out the cash.

On the other hand, many students will have parents on lower incomes who simply aren’t in a position to support them financially at all, so the government has created a system which tries to ensure these students can still access higher education.

However, after scrapping maintenance grants, students with bigger loans will now also graduate with more debt than others – again, something which isn’t fair.

Basically, even if you think your parents can’t afford to give you all the money you need, or they’re not willing to, our current student finance system works on the presumption that they’re going to help you out financially so, unless that changes, it’s a conversation you’re probably going to have to have.

How much your parents should contribute

Every week we receive emails from students asking how much their parents should contribute towards their living costs.

In reality, the amount they contribute depends on a lot of things, like your individual financial circumstances, your parents’ generosity and how much you’re spending on living costs.

But, the government works out how much you’ll get for your Maintenance Loan based on your household income – assuming your parents will cover the shortfall.

Amount parents are expected to give you at university

Note: This table only applies to students in England who will be starting university in September 2019, who are living away from home but outside of London. If this isn’t you, check out the calculator below.

All values in the table add up to £8,944 as this is the maximum Maintenance Loan, offered to students from a low-income household. Since these students receive £8,944 a year, the logic is that parents with higher incomes will be expected to make up the rest to ensure all students are receiving the same or a similar amount.

And, for students who started uni between 2017–2019, we’ve made a calculator showing what your parents are ‘expected’ to contribute each year.

Disclaimer: Please note that these are suggested parental contributions that should be used as a guide only. 

The figures in the table and calculator are based on the fact that the more your parents earn, the smaller your Maintenance Loan will be – and the larger the shortfall your parents will have to cover. In the calculations, it was assumed that parents who earn below £25,000 won’t be contributing.

You can find out more about Maintenance Loan figures in our Big Fat Guide to Student Finance.

How to ask your parents for money

Once you’ve worked out exactly how much money you’re going to need from your parents to get by at university, you’ll need to sit them down and talk about it.

If you’re worried about how to broach the subject, we’ve come up with four top tips that will make the whole process much easier (and your chances of actually getting the green light much higher!).

  1. Show them you’re taking uni seriously

    Your parents might have some reservations about whether giving you money for uni is a good investment or not. They want to know that you’re going to university to study hard, get good grades and ultimately get a job after graduation.

    Show them that you’re not just going to uni for the nights out – talk about particular modules you’re looking forward to, any pre-reading you’re doing or plans for the future.

    They’ll see that you’re taking university seriously, you’re committed to making the most of your time there and that, ultimately, it’ll be a worthwhile investment.

  2. Impress them with a budget

    If you just ask your parents for a large sum of money, without actually explaining what it’s going to be used for, they might be a tad hesitant.

    Instead, show them that you’ve thought carefully about your outgoings each week/month, and have it all written down clearly for them to see.

    Use the table above as a starting point and check our guide to budgeting to break it all down to individual expenses.

    If you can give them an exact figure with a clear idea of where that money is going, they’ll be more likely to give you some help than if you just ask for ‘some money’.

  3. Back it up with research

    A budget is one thing, but if you can go one step further and back it up with some solid research on the best student deals, they’ll likely be even more impressed.

    Luckily for you, Save the Student is packed full of useful guides and inside tips on how to save money at uni. Check out our guides on the best value broadband packages and 57 ways to save money on food.

    This shows you haven’t just calculated how much things are going to cost at uni, but you’ve also looked at how you’re going to keep those costs down, ultimately saving your parents money.

  4. Be prepared to compromise

    They’ll likely appreciate it if you show that you don’t just expect everything to be handed to you, and you’re prepared to put in some work too.

    Try and scout out some part-time jobs you could do alongside your studies, or start setting up a crafty side-hustle to earn some extra cash.

    A part-time job probably won’t provide you with enough money to make up the Maintenance Loan shortfall, but it will help and give you some financial independence while you study.

What should you do if your parents don’t give you money?

At the end of the day, there are many families out there who won’t be in a position to provide extra cash to top up the Maintenance Loan. And, similarly, there will be parents who don’t want to for whatever reason.

This can be a tough situation to be in. It’s a major flaw in the UK’s student finance system, and one which Save the Student is actively seeking to change.

But in the meantime, if you’re struggling for funds at university, here’s a quick list of other avenues you can explore to try and top up your income:

  1. There are loads of grants, scholarships and bursaries out there, with a range of weird and quirky criteria in many cases. Do some thorough research to see if there are any suitable for you
  2. Get a part-time job. Loads of students get part-time jobs at uni, and they’re a crucial way of boosting your income. You could also try freelancing if you want the extra flexibility
  3. Try setting up a website or your own business. These can take serious hard work and dedication but could be a great way of combining your passion with a bit of money-making
  4. Find out about university hardship funds – these are available for students who are struggling financially. Your student advice centre should have more information on this
  5. Take a gap year to work full-time and save up some more money. You might be keen to get to uni, but you can easily defer your place for a year if you need more time to save.

Struggling to understand your Student Loan repayments? Take a look at our guide to get your questions answered.